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Sunday Musings (Four Essential Things)…

Sunday musings…

1) WOD repeats. Today’s scheduled WOD: Rake leaves, AMRAN (As Many Rounds As Necessary). Repeat X whatever.

2) Goals. I scaled a WOD on Friday, reducing the weight because my goal for that particular WOD was to not stop. I wanted to continue moving and maintain the “breathy” nature of the WOD. I could just have easily chosen to go as Rx’d and achieved a strength-endurance goal.

You vs. you.

3) Goals, again. I’m interested when I talk with a new CrossFitter to hear and understand his or her goals. Why do you want to do CrossFit? What do you hope to achieve? What will you do with the fitness you achieve? I’ve reevaluated my own goals a couple of times these last 6 years, and I’ve pretty much narrowed down my own desired outcomes and uses. How about you? What are your goals? Why are you doing CrossFit?

CrossFit is fun, whether you do it alone or in a Box. As a straight forward GPP (General Physical Preparedness) program I’m convinced it is superior to any and all other similar programs, but you may have a specific physical goal that extends beyond general fitness. Is CrossFit therefore not for you, or someone who shares your goal?

My bid is that an underlying foundation of GPP (upon which you layer your SPP) will make you better at whatever you do unless you are on the farthest extremes of the fitness Y axis, extreme strength or extreme endurance competition. Why there is so much gnashing of teeth and childish ad hominem about this escapes me.

I am especially befuddled when people who make their living teaching CrossFit, who are quite successful because of CrossFit, aid and abet those who launch such attacks.

4) 4 Things (With thanks to Ira Byock). I attended a talk yesterday on end of life care, the first in a lecture series honoring the friend I lost to cancer earlier this year. The talk was surprisingly moving, not only because it brought back memories of Ken but also because I will likely lose my Dad in the not too far future, and I thought of my folks throughout the talk. What the speaker discussed as end of life care and end of life preparations also offered a very important take-away that I will try to apply now, today, as if the end of life was nigh.

One should say 4 things often and with ease, not only in the course of completing a life’s work or concluding a life’s relationships, but in the course of living a life:

Please forgive me.
I forgive you.
Thank you.
I love you.

Sounds simple, huh? Maybe even a little trite. But each one of those little phrases is a bit of a minefield, each one laden with a hidden meaning and a back story, each one the mid-point in a little journey with a “before” you know, and an after you can’t possibly predict. There’s a little risk in that “after”, too, and that’s why those 4 little phrases aren’t really all that simple, and why considering this is not at all trivial. All 4 or those little phrases make you look outward, look at another, and in the stating they force you to put yourself at the mercy of that other. Each one of those phrases is a little opening in our guard, an invitation to accept or reject not only the sentiment but the sender.

I’ve spent the better part of 24 hours thinking about those 4 essential things and about how they fit in a life that is not necessarily concluding (at least I hope not!). We are, each of us, part of a tiny little ecosystem; thinking about using these phrases encourages us to look outward and see the others in our own worlds whether we are approaching the conclusion of a life or smack dab in the middle. How will my parents react if I approach this when I visit? Do they know it’s now the 5th act, that we are tying up all of the loose ends in the story?

How about my friends, my kids, my darling bride? Actually, without really knowing it I’ve been on this path for some years now, probably guided by Beth and her inherent goodness. Friends come and go; either way I’ll likely feel a sense of completeness in the relationship if I remember these 4 things. Patients and staff do, too. I think I’m a pretty good boss and pretty user-friendly for patients as far as specialists go. Bet I’ll be better at both if I’m thinking about these, even just a little bit, even now.

Please forgive me.
I forgive you.
Thank you.
I love you.

Don’t wait for the conclusion of your life to think about these.

I’ll see you next week…

Posted by bingo at November 6, 2011 6:13 AM


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